This article simply guides you to stay away from toxic people and talks about the mindset that you really need to know to not let the toxic people hurt you due to the fact that being a friend or a partner with someone who is toxic is painful as they often bring out the worst in you. These people know well how to make you feel guilty about what you do; while in fact, it’s under their control.
They make you feel a deep deep pain and they act as if they are right and you are wrong! It’s okay if you know that they are the ones who make mistakes and you are right, so you can walk away easily. But things aren’t this simple when you are connected with toxic people; because they can make you feel so wrong about yourself indirectly, which make you try to accept their faults and change yourself just to satisfy them instead of walking away. The fact is that if you choose to walk away, you will feel guilty being afraid that they will be hurt; so you stay.
So how to free yourself?
The definition of toxic people for me is quite simple! Once you notice someone who is trying to manipulate you over your kindness, demand more and make you accept things which are toxic and problematic to you and finally you feel worthless; they are toxic, for sure.
Let's follow this guide so that you’ll be able to free yourself back again!
Know your worth
Everyone is unique, so if you are in a relationship with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself wanting you to change and change. They are surely toxic, don’t waste your time and effort spending on this type of person.
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Never feel guilty about your decision
You need to believe that what you do (not contacting them, not wanting to follow what they want, etc.) comes from who you are and your decision, and when someone judges you, you need to know that they are not accepting who you are and they don’t respect you. So DON’T STAY, follow your own path and find what you truly want in life.
You might want to tell me that you still love them even if they are toxic and hurt you, you have no choice, but to stay. I’m here to let you know that you have choice, the choice to free yourself and feel the best about yourself. There are so many good people out there who accept who you are!
If you break up once, never go back to give or ask for the second chance
You will feel the pain after breaking up and you will want to give them another chance. But what I want you to know here is that toxic people never value the chance you give them no matter how many time you try, they are too self-centered to feel as if they deserve the chances you give and you deserve to be hurt, which is completely opposite to the truth. And finally, the past repeats and you are hurt again and again. What I want you to know here is quite simple, believe it or not, toxic people never change their behavior towards you, they may come back as you wish, but they will hurt you again. Don’t you dare asking for a second chance!
Once you found out that they are toxic, leave them as soon as possible. I’d say it’s like treating an illness as soon as you found yourself sick; thus you could be easily healed than keeping it until a stage where nothing could be fixed to be healed.
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